Love ... essence of life

A few days ago, while dining in a restaurant,  I met a perfect looking graceful couple, celebrating fifty years of marriage. When I asked them the secret to their enduring love, they simply said, "We still hold hands." It was a poignant reminder that love, often expressed in the most subtle ways, is the cornerstone of a fulfilling life.

As a woman born in the late '60s, my journey with love has been a long and winding one. As a child, I found solace in the unconditional love of my family. My parents, with their unwavering support and gentle guidance, instilled in me a deep sense of security and belonging. Teenage years brought the whirlwind of youthful infatuation, fuelled by the romantic tales of Bollywood. I remember the thrill of those first crushes, and the heart-pounding excitement of a stolen glance.

True love, however, blossomed with my husband. Our partnership, built on mutual respect, understanding, and a shared sense of humour, has weathered countless storms. The arrival of our children further enriched our lives, teaching us the selfless nature of parental love. Watching them grow, celebrating their milestones, and guiding them through life's challenges has been one of the greatest joys of our lives. The last time I fell in love was "love at first sight" with my pet. Her big brown eyes are filled with so much love.

Love is a journey, not a destination. Falling in love is a beautiful, messy, and transformative experience, much like a caterpillar turning into a butterfly. Love can manifest in many forms. With your partner, it’s in the sweet and salty conversations that raise your serotonin levels, adding spice to your marital life. With children, it comes in nurturing and care, forming emotional bonds. Love with your parents is a different kind of love, always reminding you to be grateful for what you have. Love with family and friends keeps you grounded. 

For centuries, love has been one of the strongest and a captivating emotion for humans. We've grown up with tales of legendary love stories like Heer-Ranjha, Sohni-Mahiwal, and Romeo-Juliet. We all express love differently: some through words, others through actions. Love transforms us. It gives us a sense of belonging and purpose, filling our lives with fulfilment. The rush of dopamine and oxytocin keeps our humane side alive, keeping us connected.

But how much love is enough? Perhaps the answer lies in giving love without measure. Love that makes the recipient feel cherished, valued, and deeply understood. It's the kind of love that can heal wounds, and bring meaning to life.

Love is often misunderstood as a gentle emotion, but it is a powerful force that can alter lives. Its soft side is comforting and nurturing, found in the warmth of a hug, the kindness of a listening ear, and the empathy of shared tears. Vulnerability helps us open our hearts. The strong effect of love makes us courageous, resilient, and transformative.

To truly harness the power of love, we must balance its soft and strong effects. By practising self-love and self-care, setting boundaries, and prioritising needs, we can fully embrace this incredible emotion.

Love is in the everyday moments, the shared experiences. Let us cherish the love in our lives.

It is the journey and not the destination, that makes it so profoundly beautiful.